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10 Signs That Your Partner May Be Unfaithful

As a private investigative agency, we often receive requests from individuals who are concerned about their partner’s possible infidelity. Most people seek the expertise of a private investigator in order to obtain answers and hard proof of unfaithfulness of their companion. But, what are some of the signs that your partner may be cheating? Here are some common signs to watch for, should you find yourself in this unfortunate situation. While one or more of these signs may not mean that your partner is in fact unfaithful, these 10 signs could indicate that something else is going on in your relationship.

African American man using smartphone in bed near sleeping wife

10 Signs That Your Partner May Be Unfaithful

  1. Hiding Their Cellphone – If your partner’s behavior suddenly changes and they begin to take their cellphone with them everywhere they go, or if they suddenly begin to always lay their cellphone face down, or if they suddenly only keep their cellphone alerts on private and immediately close the screen when you come near to them, this could be a possible sign of deception.
  2. Hiding To Make/Accept Calls – If your partner suddenly begins to leave the room to make/accept a call or out of nowhere begins to whisper or talk on the phone in the bathroom, this could be another possible sign of deception.
  3. Suddenly Ignoring Cellphone Text Alerts – If you are with your partner and you begin to notice that they receive a lot of text alerts, but they do not answer them, hide their phone or if they keep on making excuses why they don’t answer, this could be a possible sign of deception.
  4. Longer Work Hours – Your partner suddenly begins to claim that they need to work longer work hours away from you, or that they need to go away for work on a more regular basis, could be a red flag in the infidelity department.
  5. Less Physical Contact – If your partner seems to have lost interest in you physically, and they seem to desire less physical intimacy and/or express little to no desire for sexual contact; this can also be another sign to watch for.
  6. Spending Less Time – If your partner suddenly begins to spend less and less time with you, this can be another warning sign that someone else could be in the picture or that they are simply losing interest.
  7. Stops Calling – If your partner suddenly stops calling you as much and/or has little time to speak with you, this could be another glaring sign that something is not right with your relationship.
  8. Partner Always Talks About Someone Else – If your partner suddenly begins to constantly bring up and talk about someone else, like a coworker, friend or someone they recently met, this could be a possible sign that another intimate relationship is forming outside of your own.
  9. Spending More Time With A “Friend” – If your partner begins to spend more time with a friend or friends and this eats into the time that you would normally spend with them, this could be another possible sign.
  10. More Irritable Around You – If your partner suddenly is more irritable around you and they get mad when you request to spend more time with them, this could be another warning sign that something is not right with your relationship.
Sad multiracial female friends with crossed arms looking away and standing near white wall while having conflict in light room at home

How Can Your Protect Yourself From Being Hurt?

One of the best things you can do to minimize the hurt and disappointment that you may experience, would be to trust your gut. Our gut instincts are often spot on. That said, sensing that something is off is not enough on it’s own, if there are no behavioral or concrete evidences to prove this feeling. As private investigators, we often receive calls from individuals who recognize that something is not right with their relationship. And when asked why they suspect that their partner may be unfaithful, the client often cites sudden behavioral changes and/or hard evidence of infidelity.

In cases where an individual communicates that they have hard proof of unfaithfulness, our typical response is often “Then why do you need us?”, but usually these individuals explain that having video evidence of impropriety would better put their mind to rest. To these individuals our recommendation is to remove themselves from their negative circumstances. However, we understand that the issue is often more complicated that that; especially if children are involved.

If you find yourself in a relationship in which you suspect infidelity, our advice would be to first trust your gut, pay attention to sudden behavioral changes, communicate with your partner and ask questions and lastly obtain evidence. And if all indicators point definitively to unfaithfulness, then you must decide whether you stay with the possibly of being hurt more, or if you should leave to protect yourself from being injured any further.

Young stylish Hispanic lady quarreling with crop boyfriend while standing together on city street

Recommendations

  • Without trust you have nothing in a relationship. So, identify the areas of mistrust and attempt to communicate civilly with your partner.
  • Trust your gut, but don’t make rash decisions or jump to conclusions based on feelings alone.
  • Seek help from a relationship counselor. Maybe your relationship can be salvaged if issues are identified and addressed.
  • Don’t always assume your partner is cheating, there may be other stressors which are contributing to their change in behavior.
  • Do your part to strengthen the relationship.
  • If all else fails, decide if staying or leaving would be best for your mental health.
  • If you are still unsure if your partner is unfaithful and want proof, reach out to an investigative professional for their recommendations.

Contact us if you have questions regarding how we could assist you with your current situation.

Source: Present Truth Investigations

Women band together against alleged Cambridge ‘Online Casanova’

Six women southeast of Cambridge are looking for justice in what looks like a romance scam, according to police. No charges have been laid against the accused, from Cambridge.

The Times has agreed to use only the first names of the women involved to protect their privacy.

Anna and “Jay Singh” went on an innocuous coffee date on March 5, 2019.

Despite Anna not posting a profile picture, he contacted her on the online dating site, Plenty of Fish (POF).

He said all the right things. She claims he told her he lived in Hamilton and was a lawyer, visited his elderly parents regularly and attended church every Sunday.

“He seemed like a good person and our connection seemed genuine,” Anna said.

Their relationship developed quickly and they both declared their love for one another, she said. He talked about marriage, selling his home and planning a life together. He had met her children twice and had plans for her to meet his children.

But Jay also had costs to bear while starting his own law practice, she claims, so he frequently asked Anna for loans.

In total, she alleges those loans accumulated to $9,500 and he promised to pay her back as soon as possible. He needed the money for an engagement ring, home repairs to get it ready for sale and other miscellaneous things, Anna claims.

“I truly trusted him and loved him. I did not doubt he would pay me back,” she said. “He continuously told me he ‘does not lie.’ ”

Jay’s story started to fragment after that she claims — unfulfilled promises, cancelled dates, not paying money back in a timely manner, never letting her meet his children or go to his house, and excuses involving health concerns, including thinking he might have cancer.

Anna had enough in April 2020 and stop communications on a personal level, only wanting correspondence on paying her back the money owed. He repaid her $6,000 until his cellphone was disconnected, she said.

In Ontario, from 2017 to March 2021, there have been 1,570 reports of romance scams, with 1,175 victims and about $41.2 million in financial losses.
In Ontario, from 2017 to March 2021, there have been 1,570 reports of romance scams, with 1,175 victims and about $41.2 million in financial losses. | Steve Russell photo

The address he used was for the Ritz-Carlton in Toronto, which she claims is false.

Suspicious, Anna hired a private investigator. She found out “Jay Singh” was not his real name. It was Jivesh Jagota and he actually lived in Cambridge. He had lied about his profession as well, as he was not listed in the Law Society directory, she said.

When she Googled Jagota, she learned he had been convicted in 2006 for defrauding 13 women he met on Plenty of Fish between 2002 and 2006, bilking them for a total of $150,000. He was dubbed the “Online Casanova.”

In his trial — which had him tried for defrauding 11 women of $103,000 before two more women came forward after his arrest — a Kitchener court heard how he scammed the women financially, passing along a sexually transmitted disease and allegedly getting three women pregnant.

Justice David Carr, who sentenced him in Cambridge court to three years for defrauding the women after turning down an 18-month sentence recommended by the Crown and defence, said the accused spread “misery, financial ruin and also disease.”

In a pre-sentence report to Carr, Jagota denied having romantic relationships with the women, yet three bore his children and a number got chlamydia, according to the Waterloo Region Record.

Waterloo Region police had charged him with six counts of fraud over $5,000, four counts of fraud under $5,000, and six counts of using forged documents.

“You preyed on trusting women and lied about everything,” the judge said, according to a Record story, at his Dec. 11, 2006, sentencing.

“The depth of your deceit is appalling and quite despicable.”

Anna filed a lawsuit in Hamilton Small Claims Court case against him, including damages for a sexually transmitted infection, for the amount of $45,371. The claim includes a principal amount, plus aggravated and punitive damages.

She said the claim has been put on hold due to court backlogs from the COVID-19 pandemic. But she was able to connect with at least five other women in April 2021 who had been “victimized” by him. She found them after a warning was posted on Plenty of Fish.

In a cease-and-desist order to the Times, Jagota’s lawyer Joseph Kazubek, of JK Legal, stated: “Anna (last name removed) has commenced an unfactual small claims matter against our client for breach of commitments. None of these claims have been proven on paper, nor has the matter been called before the courts.

“Currently, neither Anna or any of the other women have filed a police report about any of their claims or concerns of their encounters with my client. My office shall be relying upon these five women to provide testimony statements during the pending litigation that is awaiting scheduling.”

Anna filed a report with Hamilton police on April 12, 2021, which was forwarded to its major fraud unit.

In an email from Det.-Const. Sarah Postuma, of Hamilton police, on June 30, Anna was told, “considering all the evidence … I am simply not able to prove he had intent to commit fraud against you. Therefore, I can’t lay fraud charges against (him). Proving intent is vital to having sufficient grounds to lay a charge of fraud against someone.”

Lynda, another woman attempting to warn people about “Jay Singh,” known to her as Robert Rhio Singh, said two other women, Norine and Christine, spoke to police in St. Catharines. Another woman who didn’t want to be part of the story also filed a police report in the Niagara region town, she said.

“It is our general practice that we do not provide details on individuals or investigations that have not involved charged persons,” said Const. Philip Gavin of Niagara Region police.

A sixth woman, Alison, filed a report with Brantford police on Aug. 3.

Canadians have lost $90.7 million in romance scams between 2017 and March 2021.
Canadians have lost $90.7 million in romance scams between 2017 and March 2021. | Metroland file photo

Kazubek claims Anna sought out the other women to assist in her pending litigation.

“(She) had gone to the lengths of making a fake POF online profile of our client, in hopes to find other women to collude with.”

Anna said she contacted the other women only after they posted a warning on Plenty of Fish about Jagota.

In Lynda’s case, she said she never gave “Robert” any money during their short relationship in 2013 and therefore was unable to file a police report. She did, however, claim he gave her a STD and “slut shamed” her for it.

The women’s stories are all strikingly similar. Soon after meeting, Jagota allegedly professed his love for them, which led to talk of marriage. They claim he would request money from them for various reasons, and then be tardy on paying some of the money back, if at all.

Lynda noted the women had to file reports in the city where it occurred.

“We are looking for more victims,” Lynda said.

“We knew (him) as Robert Rhio Singh, Robert Singh, Jay Singh or Mark Dua Singh. (They) have gone to our local police to file reports and need more women to do it as well to get this piece of garbage off the street and to stop him doing this to other women.”

No current formal charges have been brought against him.

Const. Andre Johnson, public information officer for Waterloo Region police, said there weren’t any current local complaints involving the man.

Gavin called the information provided being consistent with a romance scam.

In Ontario, from 2017 to March 2021, there have been 1,570 reports of romance scams, with 1,175 victims and about $41.2 million in financial losses. In Canada, there were 4,390 romance scam reports with 3,097 victims and about $90.7 million in financial losses.

According to Niagara police’s website, scammers are notorious for creating fictitious profiles on dating sites or contact their targets through popular social media sites. The scammers strike up a relationship with their targets to build their trust, sometimes talking or chatting several times a day. They then make up a story and ask for money.

It also states, scammers will often say they’re living or travelling outside of the country.

“We’ve heard about scammers who say they are working on an oil rig, in the military, a doctor with an international organization. They will ask for money to pay for a plane ticket or other travel expenses, pay for surgery or other medical expenses, pay customs fees to retrieve something, pay off gambling debts, or pay for a visa or other official travel documents,” the website stated.

“Trust those people who you know, not those who appeal to your emotions with false words.”

In Waterloo Region, police received reports of online romance scams where a victim was reportedly scammed out of US$500,000.

To report a scam in Waterloo Region, go to https://bit.ly/3zjk9WM or call 519-570-9777.


Story behind the story: Two women approached the Times after they allege they were the victims of a romance scam by a Cambridge man. They want to make sure other women don’t fall into that trap.

Source: Bill Doucet, cambridgetimes.ca

Toronto police inspector for ongoing probe into billionaire couple’s deaths

Doug Grady hired to uncover who killed Barry and Honey Sherman in 2017

Doug Grady is a former Toronto police investigator who’s been hired by Jonathon Sherman to help probe the killings of Honey and Barry Sherman in December 2017. (CBC Television/The Detectives)

Jonathon Sherman has hired retired Toronto police inspector Doug Grady to uncover who was responsible for killing his parents, billionaire philanthropists Honey and Barry Sherman, CBC News has learned.

Grady is a former unit commander with the Toronto Police Service who once led its homicide squad. He’s also worked in the intelligence and organized crime units. He retired in February 2011.

He has not previously been linked to the Sherman family’s efforts to investigate the December 2017 homicides in the couple’s home.

The other three of the Shermans’ children are not on board with the effort.

On Wednesday, Alex Krawczyk, Lauren Sherman and Kaelen Sherman distanced themselves from the investigation

“Ms. Krawczyk remains steadfast in her support of Toronto Police Service as they investigate her parents’ murders. She believes a parallel investigation will only serve to undermine their efforts,” Krawczyk’s lawyer, John Rosen, said in a letter to CBC News. 

Honey Sherman, 70, was a well-known philanthropist who gave millions of dollars to charities and non-profit groups. Her husband, Barry, 75, was the founder of Canadian generic drug giant Apotex Inc.

They were found strangled to death in the basement pool area of their Toronto mansion on Dec. 15, 2017. Police believe they had been dead for about 36 hours when their bodies were found by realtors who had listed their home for sale.

The Shermans, billionaire philanthropists, were killed inside their Toronto mansion just over three years ago. (United Jewish Appeal/The Canadian Press)

In the days following the killings, Sherfam Inc., the Sherman family’s private holding company, hired Toronto lawyer Brian Greenspan to assemble a team of former Toronto police officers — led by retired Toronto homicide officer Tom Klatt — to run a private, parallel investigation to the official police probe.

But two years into the private investigation, it was halted in late 2019 with no public reason given.

CBC News has learned that the Shermans’ son assembled the second team — including lawyers and Grady — even before parting ways with Klatt’s team.

Grady did not reply to emailed questions from CBC News about his current role with the Sherman family. CBC News also reached out to Jonathon Sherman, but he did not reply.

Little new information uncovered

As the Toronto Star first reported last month, Sherman also turned to an international legal and investigations firm called Confidential Global Investigations.

The company, based in New York City, has partner offices in England, Israel, China, Dubai and South Africa.

Sources told CBC News that Confidential Global Investigations is providing legal support and a review of the evidence gathered by the initial private investigation, which includes the results of the private autopsies done on the Shermans’ bodies, a forensic crime scene analysis and interviews with potential witnesses.

The sources say little new information has been uncovered by the U.S. firm and Grady — at least nothing that Toronto police haven’t already found themselves.

CGI did not respond to questions from CBC News.

These screen grabs of Barry and Honey Sherman’s driver’s licences appeared in recently released court documents. (Ontario Court of Justice)

Grady — despite his lengthy career solving murders, cracking organized crime groups and gathering intelligence — is acting primarily as a liaison between the U.S. lawyers, the Toronto Police Service and Jonathon Sherman.

In order to conduct further interviews or gather evidence, Grady would have to be a licensed private investigator under Ontario regulations.

He did not respond to questions about his status as a licensed private investigator.

Meaghan Gray, manager of corporate communications for Toronto police, said both the Sherman family and police investigators continue their efforts to solve the couple’s deaths.

“The Toronto Police Service is aware of the family’s connection to Confidential Global Investigations and retired TPS member Doug Grady,” she wrote.

“Our investigative team has had a high level of co-operation throughout this very active and ongoing case, and we continue to take investigative steps every single day in an effort to bring justice to the family and friends of Barry and Honey Sherman.”

Grady led some high-profile murder investigations

Grady, who spent 30 years with Toronto police, was known as an affable and successful investigator.

One of his highest-profile cases was the countrywide “House Hermit” investigation in 1992.

It was sparked after the bodies of Toronto realtor Nancy Blackburn and her husband, Ian, were found stuffed into the trunk of their car outside their home.

At the same time, police were also investigating the disappearance of a Toronto shop owner and a series of bizarre break-ins of summer homes an hour north of the city.

The suspect, later identified as David Snow, was dubbed the “House Hermit” because he would often live for days at a time in the various homes he broke into — leaving behind excrement in crumpled newspaper and unusual notations about military weapons scribbled on paper.

Snow fled to the Vancouver area, where he kidnapped two women and held them bound and gagged in a forest for days.

He was eventually tracked down during the Canada-wide manhunt.

Snow, 66, is currently serving a life sentence. He was suspected in other missing persons cases but never charged.

The Shermans’ north Toronto home on Dec. 18, 2017, while police forensics conduct an investigation into the cause of their deaths. Barry Sherman founded pharmaceutical firm Apotex. The home was for sale at the time of their deaths. (Evan Mitsui/CBC)

Many questions remain in Sherman homicide probe

Toronto police have said they have a number of people whom they consider persons of interest In the Shermans’ homicides.

Barry Sherman had been involved in dozens of heated lawsuits, including some against his own relatives. He had also loaned tens of millions of dollars to family and invested in numerous businesses owned by relatives and associates.

According to court documents released late last year, Jonathon Sherman told police his parents “were complicated people and that there are people out there who would have a grudge against them and would have a reason to hurt them.”

The documents don’t reveal who those individuals may have been.

They also note that Apotex had lost a $500 million lawsuit and was facing some financial pressures and laying off some staff.

WATCH | Daughter of Honey and Barry Sherman speaks out:

Daughter of slain billionaire couple goes public

2 years ago3:21Alexandra Krawczyk’s billionaire parents, Barry and Honey Sherman, were killed. After months of living in fear for her own life, she now wants to make sure their legacy of charity is maintained.

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Regis Korchinski-Paquet’s family hires private investigator after SIU clears police

Regis Korchinski-Paquet died at age 29 after police were called to her apartment in Toronto. Her family has now hired a private investigator to probe the case after the SIU cleared the police officers who attended the call. (Newediuk Funeral Home)

A year after a Toronto woman fell to her death from a balcony while police were in her home, her family is still seeking answers and challenging what they maintain was a flawed investigation into the incident.

Regis Korchinski-Paquet’s family has hired a private investigator and turned to a second police watchdog in an effort to understand what happened on May 27, 2020, and hold those involved to account, said the family’s lawyer, Jason Bogle.

A year later, “they find that they’re still fighting,” Bogle said. “They’re still grieving and they’re angry.”

One of Ontario’s police oversight bodies, the Special Investigations Unit, last summer cleared the six Toronto police officers who were in the apartment, saying that while their efforts to de-escalate the situation were unsuccessful, none of them broke the law.

The family rejected the findings and later petitioned to have the case reopened, Bogle said. They allege, among other things, that the SIU has withheld a critical piece of evidence — Korchinski-Paquet’s cellphone, which they said she was using that night.

The SIU said Wednesday that while it does at times reopen investigations when new information comes to light, none was brought forward in connection with the Korchinski-Paquet case.

The agency also denied collecting Korchinski-Paquet’s phone or ever having it, and said it had been advised that Toronto police were not in possession of the device.

“The SIU stands by the integrity of its investigation and final report,” spokeswoman Monica Hudon said in a statement.

Independent review underway

Bogle said the family recently filed a complaint with another oversight body, the Office of the Independent Police Review Director (OIPRD), because the SIU’s account “doesn’t make sense.”

The OIPRD confirmed it is investigating, but declined to comment further, citing confidentiality.

The Toronto Police Service also declined to comment, citing the OIPRD investigation, but said Korchinski-Paquet’s death was a “tragic case.”

The death of Korchinski-Paquet, who was both Indigenous and Black, came just days after George Floyd, a Black man in Minneapolis, was killed when an officer pressed a knee against his neck for nearly nine minutes. A police officer, 45-year-old Derek Chauvin, was found guilty of murder last month in Floyd’s death.

Regis Korchinski-Paquet, who fell to her death during a police intervention, is remembered at a makeshift memorial in Toronto, May 30, 2020. (Mark Bochsler/CBC)

In part due to the proximity to Floyd’s death, Korchinski-Paquet’s death “it drove home the point that this pattern or trend of deaths is not unique to the United States and it also exists here,” said Akwasi Owusu-Bempah, a sociology professor at the University of Toronto whose work focuses on race and policing.

In the months that followed, there was “lots of signalling” from public officials and private sector companies around social justice and strengthening equity and diversity, including promises of funding for initiatives for Black Canadians in the latest federal budget, Owusu-Bempah said.

“(There has been) lots of messaging, lots of statements, the creation of policies and documents and all of those things, but I can’t say that one year afterwards that I noticed a major tangible change,” he said.

Protests call for defunding police, policy change

In Toronto, where protests sparked by 29-year-old Korchinski-Paquet’s death called for the defunding of police, policy change remains largely at the discussion stage, Owusu-Bempah said, adding that these types of shifts typically take years to take root.

Demonstrators continued to call for police reform and defunding Monday during a march marking the anniversary of Korchinski-Paquet’s death.

Tensions flared during the rally, culminating in the arrest of two people. Police said both were charged with obstructing a peace officer, and one also faced an assault charge.

The two people were released out of safety concerns after a crowd surrounded the custody wagon, a police spokesperson said.

Some observers criticized police for the arrests, noting similar gatherings by those opposing provincial pandemic rules have been allowed to proceed without any charges laid.

Owusu-Bempah said given the purpose and timing of Monday’s rally, “for the police not to allow, enable that to take place without arrests, kind of points to the problems that exist within policing.”

According to the SIU’s report, police were called to Korchinski-Paquet’s home because she and her brother were fighting. The pair and their mother had each called 911 during the argument, which began as a dispute over the volume of the TV after Korchinski-Paquet had a seizure, it said.

Korchinski-Paquet fell to her death, report says

The 911 operator inquired about any mental health issues and was told Korchinski-Paquet had epilepsy and had experienced seizures earlier that day, the report said.

The document said that once police arrived at the apartment, two officers blocked Korchinski-Paquet from getting to her mother and brother. They eventually let her back into the apartment so she could use the bathroom, it said.

Korchinski-Paquet then went out onto the 24th-floor balcony and prevented officers from reaching her by holding her body against the door, the report said.

She then tried to scale the balcony and cross onto the one next door, which is when she lost her balance and fell to her death, the document said.

Source: CBC, Paola Loriggio · The Canadian Press

Private Investigators Hired In Toronto Double Homicide

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A prominent lawyer for Barry and Honey Sherman‘s family says he has retained a former Toronto police homicide detective and other experts to look into the deaths of the couple as officers continue their investigation.

“I have retained a number of forensic experts including Tom Klatt and other distinguished homicide investigators to provide a second lens and to ensure that no stone is left unturned,” Brian Greenspan told Global News Thursday in a brief written statement.

Klatt worked as an investigator for 19 years and was involved in more than 70 murder investigations, according to a biography on his website.

READ MORE: Toronto police, sewage crews checking pipes in front of Barry and Honey Sherman’s house

“He received specialized training and developed an expertise in crime scene profiling and statement analysis. Throughout his career, he was involved in several high-profile international murder cases,” the biography read in part.

Barry Sherman and his wife Honey were found inside their Old Colony Road home on Dec. 15. A post-mortem examination found the Shermans died of “ligature neck compression.” Toronto police homicide investigators are treating the deaths as suspicious, but officers haven’t named any potential suspects or released much information about the investigation.

As of Thursday afternoon, a police cruiser remains parked in front of the home as yellow crime scene tape blocks the front of the property. Toronto police spokesperson Mark Pugash told Global News investigators are still going into the home and the measures are needed to protect the crime scene.

READ MORE: Mourners pay tribute to Canadian billionaire couple Barry and Honey Sherman

When asked about the hiring of private investigators by the Sherman family, Pugash said Toronto police would not be commenting. He also declined to comment on what, if any, information would be shared with those investigators, as well as the police service’s policies on sharing information with private and third-party investigators.

“Our concentration is on the death investigation and that’s where all of our work is going,” Pugash said.

Meanwhile, the Globe and Mail reported that Toronto Mayor John Tory spoke with the Sherman family and relayed concerns to police about information being given to media outlets, including Global News, by various sources.

Source: Nick Westoll, Global News